Strange But True
Cheating could make your relationship stronger
A relationship expert explains how cheating could make your relationship better and healthier.
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A situation like this could push your relationship to a better, stronger phase.
(Jaruma)No one wants a partner that cheats. It's just as simple as that.
It is obviously better to not be in a relationship than to be in one where people no longer take their commitments seriously and infidelity is almost 70% certain.
What cheating does is to pull your relationship apart and bring in doubts. Once a partner cheats, it becomes hard to trust again to to form a connection as strong as what you had before their eyes strayed, even if it was one time.
However in a stark contrast to what we've always known about cheating and its effect on relationships, a relationship expert claims cheating could make your relationship stronger and better.
Esther Perel, a US based sex and relationship therapist says that cheating helps relationships in a way because it makes people take stock of their marriage.
“Many affairs are break-ups, but some affairs are make-ups,” Perel tells The Guardian.
The therapist is against infidelity and unfaithfulness among partners but she believes that when it does happen, divorce shouldn’t be the only option. Reconciliation, a chance to patch things up move on from that occurrence should be on the cards.
“I think people should be able to determine for themselves the choices that they will make and the consequences thereof,” she says.
“To just push people to [breakups] and to think that divorce is always the better solution when it dissolves all the family bonds… Entire lives are intertwined with a marriage.”
Perel insists that cheating could help improve a relationship because it makes couples deal with their problems.
“Sometimes the relationship that comes out is stronger, and more honest and deeper than the one that existed before because people finally step up.”
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